I Should Have Known

"I Should Have Known"

We've all said it. That gut-punch moment when you didn't have the answer — and you felt embarrassed, almost humiliated.

Here's the truth: nobody can know everything. Not in this world.

But if you're constantly chasing facts to avoid that feeling? You might be an Enneagram Five.

I know a Five at work. Brilliant. He knows every fact, every detail, every spec. Need a computer for your business? He'll tell you the make, model, price, and where to buy it in 30 seconds. Saved me hours.

But his relationship? Falling apart. And he can't fix it — or leave it.

Because Fives would rather research a problem than feel one.

Facts are safe. People aren't.

But here's the catch: life isn't a research project. You can't Google your way out of intimacy. At some point, you have to show up, take the risk, and engage.

Because the goal isn't knowing more. It's never having to say "I should have known" about your own life.

Are you one who hides behind information instead of living your life?

CLICK HERE and let’s talk about it.

Hi! I am Paula McCoach of Your Number Matters. As an experienced Enneagram coach & consultant, I specialize in helping others discover their Enneagram number & use their strengths to transform into their best selves. I offer both in-person & online coaching for individuals & groups.

I’ve been actively studying and working with the Enneagram for over 20 years, with a focus in the Riso-Hudson tradition. My journey has included participation in numerous Enneagram retreats, workshops, and trainings aimed at deepening both personal growth and professional application.

Since 2019, I’ve been a member of an advanced monthly Enneagram study group facilitated by certified Enneagram coaches and authors, and I am currently training with a Riso-Hudson Certified Enneagram coach and licensed therapist. I’m also a member of the International Enneagram Association (IEA), where I continue my education through ongoing trainings and community engagement.

My approach integrates psychological insight, somatic awareness, and spiritual development—bringing depth and compassion to individuals and groups seeking transformation through the lens of the Enneagram.

Outside of my Enneagram business, I am a Tutor both privately and with Wright Academics. I tutor in English Language Arts, writing, executive function, as well as in test prep for SAT, ACT and ISEE.