Relationships: You know when you’ve given it enough time.

I've Given It Enough Time

Relationships are always moving. Always shifting. And sometimes, without even realizing it, they drift somewhere unhealthy.

That's why staying tuned in to what wisdom is telling you matters.

I was exhausted. Fourteen years into a relationship. Same painful pattern. Over and over again. I'd reach out. Silence. Days would go by. Nothing. When we finally talked, he would promise to do better. And for a while? Things would look up. But then — same hurt. Same spot. Same question: How did I end up here again?

Sound familiar?

In the last two newsletters, we talked about checking in with your gut. Your feelings. Now it's time to bring in a third voice. Your head. Not the anxious, going-in-circles kind of thinking. The other kind. The quiet, steady kind. Wisdom.

Here's where it gets good.

I was cleaning out old journals when one fell open. The page? From 2012. I read my own words: "He did it again. I reached out and never heard back for days."

Chills.

Fourteen years later. Nothing had changed.

And then a thought surfaced. Simple. Clear. Calm. "I've given it enough time."

That was my wisdom talking. No panic. No anger. Just truth.

I listened. I stopped the loop. I stepped back. I made room for relationships that actually filled me up. Ones that gave back.

Your wisdom is already in there. It's been waiting.

Are you ready to hear it?

When you are ready, let’s connect!

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Hi! I am Paula McCoach of Your Number Matters. As an experienced Enneagram coach & consultant, I specialize in helping others discover their Enneagram number & use their strengths to transform into their best selves. I offer both in-person & online coaching for individuals & groups.

I’ve been actively studying and working with the Enneagram for over 20 years, with a focus in the Riso-Hudson tradition. My journey has included participation in numerous Enneagram retreats, workshops, and trainings aimed at deepening both personal growth and professional application.

Since 2019, I’ve been a member of an advanced monthly Enneagram study group facilitated by certified Enneagram coaches and authors, and I am currently training with a Riso-Hudson Certified Enneagram coach and licensed therapist. I’m also a member of the International Enneagram Association (IEA), where I continue my education through ongoing trainings and community engagement.

My approach integrates psychological insight, somatic awareness, and spiritual development—bringing depth and compassion to individuals and groups seeking transformation through the lens of the Enneagram.

Outside of my Enneagram business, I am a Tutor both privately and with Wright Academics. I tutor in English Language Arts, writing, executive function, as well as in test prep for SAT, ACT and ISEE.